Thursday, April 10, 2008

being a mom of little ones...

Ok, so I'm going on week 3 of no breaks...no dates....no nothing. The closest thing I get to a break is the 2 hours of volleyball when the kids are somewhat being watched by the babysitter...usually more stressful than if I had them myself. They were out by the road this week, running around the church last week, and in the gym bugging me the week before. I NEED A FREAKING BREAK!!! I had it planned last night for my mom to watch the kids for ONE hour while I made a nice dinner for Jase and we ate it on the trampoline (it's the thing that I drew this week from our "improving your relationships" jar...Nerdy I know, but I love it, we've been doing it for years). But then alas, Jase is over half an hour late home, I get too frustrated and call the whole thing off, and show my frustration til I fall asleep that night. Am I the only mom that has these types of days? I would say moments, but I know everyone has their moments, I'm talking about my 3rd day of going nuts! And I had a few last week. I find myself being short with my kids, not being fun or playing games with them. I don't answer ANY phone calls, and I try not to go out into public for fear of running into someone I know (which is inevitable here) and having to fake happy! blah!!!! I even put on Hillary Weeks every morning full blast, and then in the afternoon I belt her stuff out on the piano, and I sit down and read an article out of the Ensign, I do a billion exercise videos, I relax and read one of my home decor magazines, I do most anything that I've read reduces stress...the only solution I see to this...remove the children. I feel like they are constantly fighting, don't listen to a word I say, try as hard as they can to make the house as messy as possible, and complain about every meal I make. And I know they aren't that bad, but the mood I've been in lately has made everything seem 10x worse! I'm really hoping this weekend will be a good thing. I'm a little nervous because I have 4 photoshoots, and 2 planned meals, which will both be a well needed break from the kids. But there are so many other things I want to do while we're down there since we haven't been down in over a month, and we won't go back for a long time, probably longer than a month, and I know there will be no time, and I'll stress again. Seriously does someone have a solution to stress? Especially when a couple of weeks ago, I felt sooo content and relaxed and like I had things under control. I was at my utter most happiness! Honestly! It was wonderful. Alright, now I need to go see what my kitchen looks like. In the 5 minutes I took to write this, I heard 2 fights, 3 things of food/beverage hit the ground, and the baby chicks went crazy for a minute. Wish me luck!

21 comments:

amanda.hall said...

Well I have my moments but I can't even imagine what it would be like to have more than one kid and how much more stressful it could be! Wish I were up there to watch your kids for you! Anytime you're here in the valley and need a sitter give me a call! Seriously!

Mary said...

Kristal, you're describing the details of my life perfectly. It's not just you, we all have 'off' days and even weeks. I always start the day off great then by 5pm I'm yelling because the kids are fighting, hungry, and crabby all at the same time, and I just need a SECOND to have a complete thought to myself...but I can't, because the baby needs to nurse, the chicken is burning, Mike's going to be late, and Emma just spilled her milk. I always think about how much rest I'll get when I'm dead...in a good way! Ok this is too long but I'm posting anyay.

Shelly Brown said...

I tell ya...a few days in Vegas did the trick for me! ;) Plan a little getaway for you and Jase!

Tamee said...

Answer you dam phone! See you made me curse.

kristal said...

I think you mean damn right? Ok, I will. Um, Shelly, i have so many trips planned. I actually told Jase that very thing yesterday, "I want to go to vegas". But yeah, I think our trips for the next while will be to Phoenix/Mesa.

The Fish Family said...

I went and had our husband adjust me today because I have had a headache from you know where and I couldn't get rid of it. He said that you were in need of a break and I know the feeling. It is so nice when we come up this way so that both sets of grandparents can watch the kiddos. I don't ever get a break when we are in Camp Verde so I definitely feel your pain!! We might be back next week because Greg has been working up here so let me know if there is anything fun going on!! Hope things get better, later!!

The Fish Family said...

YOUR husband!! I don't think that we are doing that polygamy thing anymore. Must remember to proof-read BEFORE posting!!

Alona said...

I love the "our husband" quote. That made my day! :)

Burgess said...

Trust me, every mom knows what you mean. I feel a little guilty sometimes that I like to go to work at night for a break. You probably already do this, but I found another mommy in my ward and we trade kids once a week for 3 hours in the morning. It doesn't sound like much, but one morning a week to yourself is like heaven.

scott said...

i was where you are a few months ago and I have actually found a solution. It is amazing! call me when you come down here & we'll get together!!
P.S. I called you today!

scott said...

actually for somereason this showed us as Scott but it is really Ashley Biddle wierd!

Staci said...

I feel this way quite often actually, three kids is very busy. The best part is that you just remember you are amazing wife and mom and you rock at what you do!! I totally look up to you and who you are. Thank you for being such a great example of a wonderful person!!

Vonda said...

What is leading to all this cursing? Well, I was gonna suggest medication, but Elder Ballard put the kabosh on that! You just need your sisters. Come on down.

BTW - Been there too many times. It will pass soon.

Our Little World said...

Are you living in my life? I think every mom has days, weeks and months like this! I totally feel your pain. (((((hugs))))) mama!

I too loved the "our husband" quote!

Zane said...

In my family the tools for a stress free existence are booze and neglect. Since that probably isn't an option for you, I don't know what else to recommend. I am super high stress (on a good day) and Burgess not only has to run after the kid all day but has to work 5 nights a week, sometimes till 11:30. Both of us a stressed, we never see each other so during the 20 minutes a day we are in the same room together it is only because I stepped in while she is leaving. All of the days have begun to run together. Thankfully Izzy is the greatest child ever and helps promote a little bit of sanity in the house.

Sorry to hijack your post - I think the only course of action is escape. Run away from everything - even if it is just for a few hours.

miken said...

Goodluck! hope no more chicks died. Take a deep breath and laugh!

Kristal said...

um, yeah, so thanks. I got a girls lunch today It was great! And Jase has had most of the kids mos tof the day, so that's been nice. Bossy is a defiante stress reliever. Enjoy Izzy you 2...the devil kicks in at about 2 and a half. Boston is my sanity too. Things are slowly getting better...of coarse I'm not home cooking and cleaning...so we'll see how things go on monday. Thanks for the advice and support my peeps

Tia said...

yeah mine have been happening more and more lately. im thinking is this just me or do i just focus on it more than others. i must but whatever crap i mean big crap happens at my house! If you are working this hard your going to look great honestly when i was so focused I did. i want to see your hot body you better take a picture in your swimsuit and post it!

Koi said...

ok let me catch up with blog comments.
1> as I told you Friday. I almost drove away and left my kids literally 2 weeks ago. Just go stand in the Walmart bread aisle for 30 minutes.
2> No cats! They barf up hair balls and you know how I feel about hair.Yuck!
3> I hate D.A.'s feakin' voice, but her exercises really work. So I just mute her and out on my blog music that I love. I have two DVD's with a few exercises each, do you want me to burn them for you?

alison said...

I feel the same Kristal, I feel like I NEVER have any me time at all, hopefully once we are back together as a family in Yuma I can have a few minutes of peace every now and then. I hear you though girl. So when are you coming down to the valley, not that we will see eachother, but it will be nice to know you are not too far away. I miss you, it is so weird to say that cause we never saw eachother much, but it is sad knowing that you are far away and I think I am tired cause my comment is just running together and not making sense, so love ya and take a big deep breath!

Mary Ann said...

it is hard when you feel like a single mom.. that's how my last couple of months have been.. i just always tell myself, "it won't always be this way!"... i definately need to be a more fun and relaxed mom! i don't want my kids to remember me being grumpy!