So I've been feeling like my life all of a sudden got 10x busier over the last year and a half (since we moved here). I can never keep up with kid's schedules, the 2 babies at home, keeping the house clean, cooking and getting a little (LITTLE) shut eye. The days seemed so much shorter, and needs became more demanding! I realized all the moms of 4 or more kids around the ages of mine were feeling THE SAME WAY.....until I met a friend who seemed content, relaxed, found time to chill with her kids, cooked most every single meal, her daughters hair was done everyday, as well as her own (this is a struggle for us) and her house is mostly together all of the time (she watches a ton of kids during the day, so there are 2 rooms that are covered in kids and toys most of the day, but the rest of the house seemed pretty well put together). I realized everyone LOVES her, but she doesn't do a lot of social things. I realized I was feeling the need to say yes to every single outing I was invited to. Maybe because in JC I was the one that planned them, and did them and I never got invited, mostly because no one ever did girls nights, or movie nights, or family BBQ's there (well, except with their extended family). But she did do church activities, and she did make sure her kids knew she was there FOR THEM, not for HER. I feel like up until last month, I said, "I'm going out with _____ to go and _____, you guys are staying here with dad". a lot! It's been hard to say no, or to find legit, honest reasons to get out of get togethers with friends, or even family sometimes, so that I can stay at home with the kids more...but I"VE LOVED IT! And there's still a lot of selfishness in my day...ie, painting my headboard, painting my hutch, sewing, trying out new Pinterest recipes, etc....but I feel so much more productive. I like that my kids see me get things done, rather than fret and panic and stress that there isn't enough time to do anything, and then go hang out with friends. ugh! I LOVE friends, and I LOVE GNO's...but I think one a month is fine, and what mom's don't like a GNO in the form of taking the kids to the park together to wear them out for nap time?! Anyway, since I can't completely get back to my simple country life right now, I've got to simplify what I have to work with here. Including teaching my kids to say no! There's just so much stinking stuff going on here all the time for the kids...and they usually get a bit mad at me when I tell them they need time at home, but there are some days when i feel like they are only here for an hour in the morning and an hour before bed, and they're too young to be away from home that much (in my opinion)....and the amazing thing...if/when they complain that I didn't let them go, they're perfectly fine with staying home within a few minutes. Kamryn isn't in an activity right now, and it's so nice! I love having extra time with her. The boys are both in soccer, but we ditch most every week. It's been nice just hanging out, going to parks, playing in the front or backyard, teaching them to cook, playing card games, and yes, watching tv or hilarious youtube videos together. I like these guys, and I wanna hang out at home with them as much as I can before they hit the inevitable, busy teenage years! So thanks friend (you know who you are) for reminding me it's ok to say no, it's ok to stay home, it's ok to not be social, and it's especially ok to be happy with it all...especially at this stage of life when our little ones need us more, and need to learn all of the domestic (even these boys) things of life!
Sunday, March 10, 2013
And then the storm starting picking up pretty strong...we all had to fight the wind to get to the car. The older 3 were bustin up laughing (so were people in their cars watching us) and Vivian and Pearrce were miserable. Pearce really couldn't move...it was an equal battle for him...and Vivvy couldn't bury her head into my shoulder enough. So we decided to do something indoors...the LIBRARY! Which was a fantastic idea....but little did I know that I have a $42 fine...thanks to my little Ms. that loves checking out books, but stinks at putting things where they belong. So we came home, loooked in the bookshelves, under the storage units, under her bed, in her closet and a few dozen other places, but we have yet to find it. So she might be working through a part of spring break to pay for the books. Anyway, on our way home we dropped Kam off at Tessas and J off at his friends so they could go to a movie. So me and the littles went home, put in our awesome Thomas the train movie and had popcorn. The next day we wanted to go to the ostrich festival, but it was STILL rainy and cold...so we headed out to Ikea, which the kids LOVE because of the play area. the middle 3 are perfect sizes...Jaden is now too big and Vivian of coarse is too small (and not potty trained) so we met up with Uncle Justy and Aunt Lissy and spent our magical hour walking around Ikea. Then OFF to the Aloha Festival, which was a little less exciting than we had hoped, but we met up with some other friends, the Garners and the kids got out some energy before we headed back to the car. Then a pleasent trip to Sam's club (seriously, the kids were all sparkling...ok ok, they were dirty, but they were getting a long, and everyone was seriously saying what a good looking bunch) then up to visitin the Bollwinkles....where I left the older 2 and took the littles home again to have root beer floats (dad's out of town!) and watch Spongebob til they crashed.
I was just so worried about these 4 dadless days, but they went just lovely thanks to some great kids. Of coarse one or two had their breif moments, which may have been exaggerated by my lack of sleep (the biggest downfall of dad being gone), but it was a great weekend. Fingers crossed that the rest of spring break goes this well and that we can get creative to keep is entertaining!
And now to some pictures of my little guys. I need 2 big pictures to go in my 2 big Ikea frames above their beds, so I pulled over on the side of the road (wasn't planning on doing it, obviously, you can see mustard on B's shirt in some of them) but I'm so in love with these. SO IN LOVE! I don't ever ever eve want them to grow up! EVER! They feel like they need to hold hands or have their arms around each other all the time. It's my favorite!!!!!
And this guy just cracks me up at this age. He's hilarious and says the funniest things. I've been trying to get him to say hilarious more, so when he's laughing at something I laugh and say, "that's hilarious" and he'll reply, "yea, and funny too". He's soo cool. He spends 75% of his day at the table doing puzzles, or in the toy room setting up car races. He's cake!
Posted by Kristal at 12:39 PM
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Yesterday I read a great article that my sister Tamee posted about how older women always tell us in this phase of life things like, "enjoy them while they're young, it goes by so fast" or, "They don't' stay little long, make the most of each day". The lady that wrote the article commented on how sometimes it's hard to enjoy each moment. You've spent your whole day cleaning poop and cooking and breaking up fights and cleaning some more and laundry and more cleaning. Sometimes it's hard to enjoy it. But there are moments. There are always moments that make everyday worth it. Somedays, at least in my home, I don't find the moments, and just endure til bedtime. Lately, our days have been full of moments. I've noticed with the previous 3 kids that it does come and go in phases, but I'm enjoying the kids in the phases they're in right now. And yesterday was a gleaming super mom moment...IN PUBLIC...super rare for us. I was actually OUT of my workout clothes and in jeans, the kids were all dressed...in clean clothes...that were on the right way. Not only was Vivvy dressed appropriately, but she was in an adorable outfit that my friend made for her. I had just pulled Boston out for a lunch date and needed to go by Sprouts...our usual wed at 10 am routine. And of coarse, it's packed. But then, the magical part..`..Vivian sat in the cart happily, nodding her head yes to everyone and smiling and acting shy. Boston had his arm around Pearce most of the store and they talked about the different foods and what they wanted to do with their day. no one touched anything they weren't supposed to, no one talked mean, no one cried, and it was magical! Not only did I noticed (which I did from the second we walked through the door and the bakery lady let them pick out any cookie they wanted in the whole bakery...even if they didnt' want the same kind, she said she'd open 2 new boxes, love Sprouts), but others were noticing too. I had so many ladies say, "wow, what great helpers you have" when Boston would open the produce bag for Pearce to put something in. and yea, I let them pick things out and we have lots of produce that wasn't on our list, but I was just so mesmerized. And so many old couples smiled and pointed at them as they walked arm n arm around. And of coarse, Vivvy was little Ms. Sunshine throughout the store. It was hard for me not to bust up crying with happiness as I proudly walked through Sprouts for a few brief moments of my life.
These two carried on that way the rest of the day...even the sitter noticed last night.
I hope it sticks! I know Boss has always tried to serve Pearce and keep him happy...these pictures are from a 2 years ago...
Mmm, I'm not going to go out in public all day so I can keep savoring that lovely gleaming super mom moment of yesterday.
Posted by Kristal at 8:31 AM
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
There are days....few and far between, that I think of how awesome it will be to have no one here during those 8 magical hours in the middle of the day. Last year was a year that a LOT of my friends hit that stage of life. They were all super excited...and I guess you do get to a point where you're happy for it. But I can't imagine not having these 2 to tote around with me everywhere I go, and ask me to do puzzles with them, and ask me to come cuddle and watch some goofy show. I love that they want to help me with whatever I'm doing/making. I love that Vivian will crawl to wherever I am and get on her knees and reach up for me. I love that Pearce plays and plays and plays and makes Vivian happy and gives me hourly reports on what she's doing and then he decides to fall asleep. Sometimes he'll quiletly go to his bed, and other times he'll play with his trucks until his little eyes won't stay opened any longer. I know when that day comes I'll be able to get so much more done each day, but I can't imagine not having someone here to cuddle with, or play with, or even clean up after...and I know in a few months, I might read this and think I was insane...but for the last few months, I LOVE these littles. I wish we could freeze them at this age forever.Some of my favorite things about Pearceman are that he always has a car in his hand. He seriously takes his cars everywhere. I find them in the wash, i find them all over the car, in the tub, in the pantry, in the couch, ALL OVER. He LOVES cars. And he's always got a pocketful of change...except on Friday evenings. He finds and saves as many coins as he can, and keeps them in his pocket and changes them to the next days pants pocket until FRIDAY! Friday is the day the ice cream truck goes by, and he's always prepared.
And I've had a few friends want to see my chore chart. I got the idea from my friend Jana...her's is a lot better. She has a bunch of $1 bills up top and a list of extra jobs that they can earn a buck for. If my kids ever get good at doing their daily chores, we might start that.
Posted by Kristal at 7:38 PM
Sweet baby Bibby turned one on Saturday! It honestly seems like I just gave birth a few months ago...NOT a year ago! She's been a super easy happy baby to have around here...thank goodness, or I would have gone insane with moving here, the kid's crazy new schedules, and not being a sleeper for most of the year
We started off by giving Vivvy her completely awesome cake to go crazy with....she didn't understand. She was surrounded by about 20 people, half with cameras, and she paid no attention to the huge cake in front of her....
Then she wanted out.
She's a bit wacky. I really like her.
We gave it a few minutes then tired the smash cake on the ground...she did a little bit better, but still,I wouldn't call it a smash cake...maybe a taster cake.
This guy had an awesome time. He had a few of his favorite friends and cousins there, and they were busy the whole day. HIs favorite spot was under this huge awesome table clothe.
And now pictures of decorations and guests. One of Jase's patients made this fantastic cake. It was hard to let her destroy it.
Aunt LIssy and Uncle Justy in their finest tea party clothes. Aunt Lissy and Danica are my two party girls. They helped a ton to get things set up and put together.
The Hatch girls talking about crafts, food or awesomeness, I'm sure..
apetizers, snacks, desserts and sandwiches
The royal throne.
a couple of the table settings....
After the party we decided to tie all of the balloons to Vivian to see if she'd float...she doesn't, but it was a lot of fun watching her crawl with them on.
Mi hermanas (Hey, does anyone have a picture of all the party guests?) I didn't start taking pictures til after the party. haha)
and other than the awesome baby...THIS is what made the party...this AWESOME party hat. It is so adorable...and luckily Bibs didn't mind wearing it!
and the Gutterys put together the "Vivian" board.
I LOOVE this little squat stance.
Posted by Kristal at 5:58 AM